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The Perfect Storm (aka Perfectionism Disorder)

IF YOU CALL yourself a perfectionist, chances are your outfits always match, your Instagram is impeccably filtered, you already had a career path mapped out in elementary school…and you may have perfectionism disorder. If spilling coffee on that outfit, getting tagged in an unflattering pic, or pulling in a B on a test sends you into a tailspin of critical thinking, your inner perfectionist is suffering. 



According to psychologists, a rigid drive in the direction of this magical idea of perfect is maladaptive. Pathological, or maladaptive, perfectionism is a personality trait that can lead to generalized anxiety, depression, and patterns of behavior that fit the criteria of a psychiatric disorder. In its milder form, perfectionism disorder can lead to procrastination and a fear of failure that paradoxically leads to failure (since the so-called perfectionist is too scared or rigid to think outside of the box.) Is this path to perfection screwing with your life?

Step 1, chill. You can’t always cover up real life with ‘Valencia’. Even the best of us trip on runways, drool in our sleep, and finish pints of ice cream in one sitting. It happens. The key is to let go of trying to be the Phoenix and embrace those moments of imperfection, because guess what? If you’re striving for perfect, you’re probably miserable, and misery is no one’s idea of perfect.

Step 2, ask yourself, Is my perfectionism disorder making those around me miserable with overt criticism? If your silent disappointment in your kid’s bronze medal is louder than the cheers for the first place winner, your criticism just kicked you out of your perfect zone.

Step 3, reflect. Is your perfect self a kill joy? If you always order the salad with dressing on the side, skip the wine, and turn up your nose at dessert because your size zero self just can’t fall of the perfection bandwagon, you just lost the perfect game. Life is about sharing time, experiences, and celebrations, not maintaining a lustrous facade. Don’t let perfect make you lame.

Step 4, let go. Perfectionism disorder takes away choices. Say the tunnel vision path to success in front of you is suddenly crossed by an opportunity that will completely change the course of your life (I’m talking like Oscar-worthy). If giving it a shot will throw a wrench into your meticulously color coded plans, are you too scared to fail, or are you going to take it?

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7 Comments

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    Rochelle Fo
    September 25, 2017 at 3:02 am

    Love your blog. So pretty!

    Good Vibes, Team Fox
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    Jordan
    December 8, 2017 at 4:12 am

    Life is about making choices that will lead us to happiness. Chill out and have fun. Good blog!

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    Peachy
    December 8, 2017 at 11:06 pm

    I have a girlfriend who is just like this! We still love her but sometimes her being a perfectionist could get annoying. I would let her read this so that she’ll at least know where to draw the line. Thanks!

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    Unjerson
    December 9, 2017 at 1:29 pm

    Imperfection in the face of the rock allows the climber to ascend to new heights. All the more reason to live ‘sans souci’.

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    Dexter
    December 9, 2017 at 1:41 pm

    Nice touch on perfectionism disorder. I personally believe people should always relax in all their undertakings.

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    Mike
    December 9, 2017 at 1:44 pm

    Chill and learn to let go. Embracing the imperfect moments leads to a greater self. Nice blog

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    Daniella K.
    December 10, 2017 at 5:46 pm

    I’m all for being the best that you can be, but sometimes when people try to be too perfect then it really comes across as annoying. Being too “perfect” can actually make you “imperfect” in an imperfect world, because you will wind up annoying the hell out of others and driving yourself crazy too.

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